Comments on: Are You a Victim? http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim Wisdom & Whimsy from the Idea Lady Sun, 01 Jan 2012 21:19:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Dianne http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim/comment-page-1#comment-55 Dianne Mon, 04 Feb 2008 19:36:02 +0000 http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim#comment-55 I feel like someone needs to stand up for this poor person. Is this blaming the victim? I know it is irritating to listen to whining, but sometimes when we whine, we are trying to talk things through to clarify the next action. When I get into this behavioral rut, the most helpful thing that my friends can say is, "What are you going to do about it?" Snaps me right out of it and gets me thinking in a self directed, solutions oriented way. I feel like someone needs to stand up for this poor person.

Is this blaming the victim?

I know it is irritating to listen to whining, but sometimes when we whine, we are trying to talk things through to clarify the next action.

When I get into this behavioral rut, the most helpful thing that my friends can say is, “What are you going to do about it?” Snaps me right out of it and gets me thinking in a self directed, solutions oriented way.

]]> By: Jamie Ratliff http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim/comment-page-1#comment-50 Jamie Ratliff Thu, 31 Jan 2008 17:08:29 +0000 http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim#comment-50 I could not agree more about the whining. We all know people like that, and most of us have been guilty of it at one time or another as well. I like to tell people one of my favorite quotes, from one of my favorite movies "Get Busy Living Or Get Busy Dying". It sounds a bit harsh I guess, but you get out of life not only what you put into it, but also what you expect. If you are a constant complainer, I'm willing to bet you will always have something to complain about. Next time you think about complaining, just spend a few minutes thinking of all the people who truly have something to complain about, such as kids with cancer. I think you will find those brave kids complain much less than you. What does that say about your situation? That is what I think about when I find myself complaining. Jamie I could not agree more about the whining. We all know people like that, and most of us have been guilty of it at one time or another as well. I like to tell people one of my favorite quotes, from one of my favorite movies “Get Busy Living Or Get Busy Dying”. It sounds a bit harsh I guess, but you get out of life not only what you put into it, but also what you expect. If you are a constant complainer, I’m willing to bet you will always have something to complain about. Next time you think about complaining, just spend a few minutes thinking of all the people who truly have something to complain about, such as kids with cancer. I think you will find those brave kids complain much less than you. What does that say about your situation? That is what I think about when I find myself complaining.

Jamie

]]> By: sanaa http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim/comment-page-1#comment-42 sanaa Wed, 23 Jan 2008 18:11:45 +0000 http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim#comment-42 Sometimes no one finds the opportunity to change his life, it is wrong to blame the people to friends ...... sanaa ait oufkir Sometimes no one finds the opportunity to change his life, it is wrong to blame the people to friends ……
sanaa ait oufkir

]]> By: Perle Champion http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim/comment-page-1#comment-41 Perle Champion Wed, 23 Jan 2008 04:00:42 +0000 http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim#comment-41 I wouldn't do well on those radio shows either. I have no sympathy for the 'pity poor me's' of the world. Those who look outside themselves for everything that's wrong in their life; think everyone's a criminal and are surprised when they meet nothing but. We get what we expect, and in the end we are the decisions we make. Enjoy your newsletter. I wouldn’t do well on those radio shows either. I have no sympathy for the ‘pity poor me’s’ of the world. Those who look outside themselves for everything that’s wrong in their life; think everyone’s a criminal and are surprised when they meet nothing but. We get what we expect, and in the end we are the decisions we make. Enjoy your newsletter.

]]> By: stormy Knight http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim/comment-page-1#comment-40 stormy Knight Wed, 23 Jan 2008 03:25:01 +0000 http://cathystucker.com/are-you-a-victim#comment-40 "Nobody can make you feel bad without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt ;) “Nobody can make you feel bad without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
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